Do- take it seriously. If the bride or groom thought highly enough of you to be an important part of their wedding and deliver a speech in their honor ….return the favor and give it your time and attention.
Do make it personal but Don’t make it about you.- share a couple of heartfelt or funny experiences that you have shared with the happy couple over the years. Guest love to visualize the connection and share a collective chuckle or sigh. But don’t go into a long drawn out dissertation on your relationship with them, how you met, or even worse…how they “were” your best friend but now belong to each other. Nobody want’s to sense resentment…..Ugh!
Don’t say too much! Guess what? Sharing that story about how you met, and that time she held your hair back when you were puking in college or he bailed you out of jail after a bar brawl is TMI !!!!!
Which brings me to DO rehearse…..Don’t be afraid to write it out and do a couple of dry runs with a trusted friend or family member. NOT your mom who thinks the sun rises and sets in all that you do or say-lol! Pick a person whom you think is a good communicator and ask them to be your audience. At least if it sucks….you’ll know in advance and have time to tweak it before the big day.
Do try to relax, take a few deep breaths… but Do’t do so with shots of Patron in preparation for the toast. Nothing says embarrassing more than an intoxicated, slurred delivery.
Do speak from the heart and know it’s okay if you are a person of few words. Being sincere & authentic goes along way and the bride and groom will appreciate you not trying to be someone you are not. Keeping it kind, short and sweet is always classic!